It’s great that mindset, sports psychology, and mental health are finally getting the attention they deserve in the horse world. Conversations that used to be whispered are now shouted from the stable roof. Riders are embracing the power of confidence, resilience, and emotional control — and that’s something I’ll always champion.  But lately, I’ve noticed a phrase creeping into conversations that makes me pause: “It’s a mindset thing.”

Struggling with fear? “It’s a mindset thing.”

Dreading your next competition? “It’s a mindset thing.”

Not enjoying your lessons? “It’s a mindset thing.”

Thinking of giving up riding altogether? You guessed it — “It’s a mindset thing.”

Now, don’t get me wrong. Mindset is powerful. It shapes how we respond to challenges, how we build confidence, and how we bounce back from setbacks. Working on your mindset is like strengthening a mental muscle — it takes effort, but it pays off.

But here’s the thing: Not everything is a mindset thing.

When It’s Not About Mindset

Sometimes, fear or frustration isn’t a mental block – It’s a warning sign! Your mind might be telling you that something isn’t right.

– You’re terrified to jump that course? Maybe your horse isn’t physically ready, or perhaps your last fall knocked your confidence, or perhaps the arena and set up doesn’t feel secure, or maybe the people with you are putting you off ….

– You’re not enjoying lessons? Maybe your instructor’s teaching style doesn’t suit you, or you’re being pushed too hard without enough support.

– You don’t want to ride at all? Maybe your gut is telling you that your horse’s behaviour needs investigating, maybe you are following a path you didn’t intend to and are doing what you “should” rather than what you want to, or maybe you’ve just had a hideous week, are tired, hormonal and somethings got to give!?

Blaming mindset in these situations is like putting a plaster on a broken leg. It dismisses the real issue and leaves you feeling like the problem is all in your head. That’s not just unhelpful — it can be dangerous.

Safety First, Always

When fear shows up, especially around horses, it often has a purpose. Horses are powerful, sensitive animals, and working with them requires respect, patience, and an honest assessment of the risks. If something feels “off,” that’s worth investigating.

• Check the fit — of your tack, your training plan, and even your instructor.
• Assess your horse’s health and behaviour –  Pain or discomfort can manifest in ways that might be mistaken for “misbehaviour.”
• Trust your instincts – You know your horse and yourself better than anyone.

Working on mindset is about understanding your thoughts and reactions, not ignoring them. It’s about knowing when to challenge yourself and when to step back and reassess.

Mindset as Part of the Bigger Picture

A strong mindset doesn’t mean forcing yourself through fear at all costs. It means developing the mental strength to make clear decisions. It’s choosing courage when it serves you and caution when it doesn’t. 

I’m all for “owning your mindset.” But I’m also for owning your voice — speaking up when something feels wrong, asking for help, and making choices that prioritise both your safety and your horse’s welfare.

So next time someone tells you “it’s a mindset thing,” pause. Maybe it is. Maybe it isn’t. The real power lies in knowing the difference…..

I offer 121 coaching as well as group courses. Want to work with me? Get in touch.